You made me promises, promises
Knowing I’d believe
Promises, promises
You knew you’d never keep
from ”Promises, Promises” by Naked Eyes
When you promise somebody that you will do something, is it to get them off your back or are you committed?
When the boss asks you to stop texting in the office and you promise not to anymore, is breaking that promise different than promising your son you will be at his football game and then not making it?
Does intent change the penalty when one breaks a promise? If you make a promise with no commitment or intent to keep it, is the guilt less than when you make a vow and do not keep it?
How many people do you know that seem to not be committed to what their marriage vows promised? If a person does not honor an oath made to their soon to be wife, family and friends, should you trust them to keep an exchange of promises in a business contract? Or is an oath given in a ceremony a step higher on the commitment scale? If so, what does it mean if one does not honor an oath?
When somebody tries to convince me that they have a steel curtain between their business and personal behaviors, I find that this is really a way to say “please do not look at my behavior in this situation as reflective of how I am as a husband or father.” Why is it necessary to say this?
I think it is because if you can’t be trusted to keep your promises, the truth is that this behavior knows no boundaries. Likewise, I have found that a person of honor, does not need to advise us to judge their public persona separately from the way they act privately.
Hard to be trustworthy part of the time. Do you agree?



